Halfway-ish there

I actually wrote this last week but since my 20-week ultrasound wasn’t until the end of the 20-week period and they have a firm no electronics policy followed by a procedure of waiting three days before I get the CD of pictures, which you also can’t print from but can take pictures of from the computer monitor…it’s actually easier to buy a gun than it is to look at my own medical information. All that waiting and the pictures are not even interesting enough to post.. How disappointing.

On the plus side, we got our welcome box from Amazon for having  registry on there. I do like free stuff and cute doggies.

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Anyway, some reflections on making it to the halfway point.

Working out

Working out is still comfortable for me, mostly. Little Zoya the Destroyer (I binged all of Glow early in pregnancy) is pretty pointed as far as an actual baby bump and it’s only been the past couple of weeks where I can’t wear tights or capris anymore because of where they hit on the bump. Strangely enough, all my shorts from SOAS and Oiselle are fine and fortunately it’s still 90 degree here (in October, absolutely ridiculous) so I’m not missing too much but I did order a couple of pairs of maternity leggings anyway.

Other clothes

All my pants and most of my shorts are now boxed up in my closet to make room in my drawers for maternity pants and shorts. I also switched to the maternity uniform for work and to say that I’m unimpressed would be an enormous understatement.

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The things I hate the most: the sleeves are slightly too short, it has buttons on the front (everything else is zippered now except this thing), the button tabs on the side are fixed so you can’t button further back for a tailored look because they’re basically a decoration, and the worst part of it is the pockets are tiny and mainly useless. I went from having four pockets on my top and six on my pants to four total and they’re all the same size and have velcro closures. I can’t fit my phone or wallet in them. Also on the pants the belly band is just a panel with a tight ring of elastic at the top that I swear is giving me heartburn. I am going to modify it, I’m just not sure yet how or when.

How I’m feeling

Fine, mostly. Apparently I’m having Braxton-Hicks contractions and Zoya is kicking up a storm, but I really don’t feel it. Baby movement is supposed to feel like fluttering and some other women also due in February are seeing and feeling visible kicks, but the closest I’ve come is feeling like period cramping occasionally, which could be the Braxton-Hicks I guess, or that feeling you get when a part of your body is pulsing. I am also really good at ignoring my body’s signs and feelings so that is probably another reason why I haven’t noticed anything – I’m generally too focused on whatever else it is that I’m doing.

The things that people say

I saved the best for last. A coworker told me that I really shouldn’t be lifting or doing anything other than walking because one of his kids was injured in utero. I love anecdotal advice the most. Also, I broke my policy of not discussing names and immediately regretted it when the woman I was talking to told me my names were “too old,” especially annoying after I’d already told her they were names that had belonged to deceased relatives. I’m back to not talking about names aside from the ones we aren’t using and even then only the really out-there ones, like Falcor.

 

I went to a baby show this weekend

I feel like I have a good handle on what things I still need for the baby but I also feel like I’m not qualified to feel like I have a handle on things yet. Because of that, I thought it would be worthwhile to go to a baby show in Atlanta over the weekend.

I had some trouble finding the location. It was in a ballroom on the sixth floor of a building, but the building with the address had legal offices on the bottom floor and they wouldn’t let you go through them (also they probably didn’t have access). Instead you were supposed to go down around the corner and take the elevator inside a separate parking garage to the sky bridge to the ballroom. I did two laps around the block before I asked for more specific directions.

Once inside the parking garage’s elevator, there was a sign unhelpfully telling you to 1) navigate to that location and then 2) take it to the sixth floor. Well, yeah, but some signage outside would have been more helpful than watching men and women in various stages of pregnancy wander around looking lost and confused. I like to think I look more pregnant than fat at this point but I had a couple of other women blatantly staring at my stomach area so possibly not.

Once inside, I checked in and got two big reusable shopping bags full of different samples. Also, because I show up to things early, I got a third big bag full of MeadJohnson samples. If you’re not familiar with MeadJohnson, welcome to the club I vacated just a day ago – they’re the folks who manufacture Enfamil, a well-known infant formula. I also stopped by the La Croix booth to try a new flavor. I really want to like La Croix and I just really don’t. I’ve tried pamplemousse and lime so far and yesterday I tried cranberry-apple (can we just call it cranapple already?) and had a similar reaction. I just don’t like La Croix…but I do like free drinks and it was hot and humid so I wanted to drink something.

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They had different levels of admission with different add-ons for each. Silver and Gold got baby carriers, and mine (Bronze) I got to enter 30 minutes early and an extra gift bag.

The expo part wasn’t bad as far as quality of the vendors, it was just disappointing how few there were. I was also disappointed in the lack of informational sessions they offered, there were only a couple, one on cloth diapering and one on baby wearing. I would have liked to have seen more sessions, even just on the products themselves or on other topics.

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They raffled off one of these babies. It was pretty sweet, but I can’t justify $250 for a temporary bed, even if it does play music and vibrate.

I was done looking at all the vendors in about 45 minutes and they didn’t do the raffle for prizes until 3:30 pm so I had a ton of time to kill. I took my gift bags back to my car and went to a Microsoft store in a mall nearby to ask some questions about discounts on their OS (spoiler: they didn’t know and it’s cheaper elsewhere). I had some lunch and then took the Atlanta MARTA back to the convention.

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The crowd wasn’t big so I thought my odds were pretty good

I was pretty impressed with the prizes they raffled off. It was everything from pacifier sets to bottle sample packs to a Stokke high chair and even a Halo bassinet. Sadly, I was not a winner of any raffle prizes, though I did get an entire case of Enfagrow from the MeadJohnson rep as he was packing to leave. I don’t have any plans on keeping a toddler milk drink in my pantry for 18ish months so I’m going to take it over to the local food bank later this week.

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Not shown: case of Enfagrow

In summary, was it worth it? Maybe. I *did* like the free samples I got, but I thought overall the show could have been a lot better. There is a bigger show that happens every year in April, which I didn’t go to (obviously) because I wasn’t pregnant then and I’m unsure whether I’ll go to it next year since Mini-K will be 2 months old and I’m not sure I want to try to do that with an infant. I think I’d be willing to go to another baby show, but I would likely do some more research to see the number and quality of vendors and classes they’re offering before I committed.

 

Charleston Getaway

I knew I was going to be bummed about having to pull out of Augusta 70.3, even though I knew realistically that doing a tri in the second trimester was just not a good idea, so to avoid further feelings of sadness and missing out seeing all the shiny, sleek bikes pour into town, I booked us an AirBnB in Charleston for the weekend.

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Pineapple fountain in the Waterfront Park



I LOVE Charleston. It’s where we had our marriage ceremony and I was captivated with it from the start. Funny story-our actual marriage was by proxy as I was living several states away. I asked a friend of his I liked to be my stand-in and we did my vows over the phone. We did our ceremony a while later and chose to do an elope-acation with just us and in a place we’d never been-Charleston.
It also seemed fitting that we go back to Charleston now that we have our little one on the way for some alone time before we become a family of three.

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We did a half day charter with Charleston Fish Rod Bending charters and had SO.MUCH.FUN. I’d wanted to do deep sea but the weather was pretty choppy from the storms so we did inshore instead. I had such an amazing time.


We caught a ray, a speckled trout, a sand perch, and several red fish (which fought like hell and were so much fun) including one really incredible big one that had a tag. South Carolina Department of Natural Resources has a program where you report catching a tagged fish and they’ll send you a t-shirt. This beautiful fish was a solid 8.75 pounds and 29 inches long. We released all of our fish this time; I am 100% a fan of keeping and eating fish but we were meeting a friend for dinner and I didn’t want to have to stuff fillets into a ziplock bag and try to freeze them and keep them frozen.


We ate at several great restaurants, Ms Rose’s in West Ashley, and revisited some favorites, like Kaminsky’s where we went for dessert after our wedding in the Waterfront Park. Our only disappointment was Caviar and Bananas where our food was just bland and tasteless and the drinks were not chilled enough.

Kaminsky’s Dessert Cafe


We walked along King Street and the Charleston City Market, went back to where we got married in the Waterfront Park, and spent a morning out at Ft. Sumter seeing the old fort.

Ft. Sumter ruin. The original was three times taller.


It was such a fun trip and definitely the right thing to do. I never even thought about the triathlon I was missing and I loved being able to reminisce with P about when we got married.

It’s all fun and games until your pants don’t zip

I had a surprise trip to the DC area last week and was excited to wear some clothes for the cooler weather (it’s still above 90 degrees at home right now as I’m typing this). I tried on all my clothes before I left to make sure they all still fit since some of my clothes have been getting a little tight.

I’m not sure what happened but Wednesday I pulled on the same jeans I’d worn the night before and although I could zip and button them, they felt much tighter and more uncomfortable than I remembered them ever feeling before. I always had the idea that I’d be able to get through the whole pregnancy either buying no new clothes or modifying what I had with some assists. That was clearly no longer an option. One of my relatives had given me a gift card to Motherhood Maternity and my hotel happened to be across the street from an outlet so I decided it was a good opportunity to do some shopping.

Since I’ll be pregnant/recovering from pregnancy down here where it’s pretty warm year-round, my wardrobe is a little more forgiving in that I won’t have to worry about making a winter coat fit. I tried to add some clothes that were easy to wear and could be dressed up a little if I wanted to look nicer.

Maternity Inspiration

 

By far, my favorite item so far has been Jessica Simpson’s skinny maternity jeans with a spandex belly band. Holy cow, these are easily as comfortable as my favorite pair of sweatpants. These leggings here look amazingly comfortable as well. (I’m totally okay with wearing leggings as pants).

I also bought a loose cardigan and a couple of side-ruches t-shirts that I could mix and match with other things for a little more variety.

I’m also loving these belted tops for looking nice and pretending that I have a middle section somewhere, and as always, Tieks ballet flats.

Pregnancy Questions

Since I’ve gone public about being pregnant, I’ve gotten asked the same questions over and over again. I wasn’t surprised, but thankfully haven’t gotten any ludicrous advice yet though I’m sure that will come later.

How did this happen?

Well, you see when a man and a woman love each other very much…

I mean, were you trying to get pregnant?

You mean, did I have unprotected sex with my husband?

Are you going to stay in the Army?

I don’t really understand this one, honestly. For one, as an officer I can’t just decide that pregnancy is cause for getting out but also, I have eight years in service. I’m clearly still serving because I like what I do.

What about your dogs and cat?

This one makes me a little angry. My pets are part of my family. I love them and they bring so much happiness and silliness to my life. Zane is too special needs to be happy with anyone else, Sophie’s already been dumped by one family, and Twister has such a strong bond with my husband. I would sooner give our baby up for adoption because that’s how it feels even thinking about giving away my pets. Zane and Sophie have become extra attached to me since I got pregnant, though that could also be because I’m the one who feeds and walks them and they love that I go to sleep to early.

How are you feeling?

Like someone substituted my nose for one of my dogs’ noses but left everything else the same. I can smell everything and it all makes me gag. Also I just feel tired all the time. As soon as I wake up for work I daydream about when I can go back to sleep. I’ve still been walking my dogs twice a day and going to the gym because I know staying active will make this easier on my body, plus, I’m still in the Army and I have to pass a PT test next year after the baby’s born and it’ll be a lot easier to do that if I don’t let myself turn into Jabba the Hutt.

 

Changes in the Wind

Sadly, I’ve had to cancel some of my big races this year, including the Ironman 70.3 Augusta but it’s okay because I’m training for something much bigger.

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We’re expecting our first little fishing buddy next February!

How do I feel? Excited and also occasionally queasy.  I won’t lie that I am a little bit bummed that I won’t be competing in the Augusta 70.3 this fall, or the Disney Princess Half next February, but those races aren’t going anywhere and I am super excited to start our family.

What about my other races? Honestly, no idea at this point. I’m really sort of playing it by ear. I’m probably safe to do triathlon until the end of my first trimester, but honestly after watching that guy eat it at the last one, I’m feeling less and less inclined to triathlon.  I’m also having a lot more trouble than I already was with running or doing anything outside in our heat and humidity. As much as it pains me, I think I am probably going to be sitting the rest of this season out racing-wise.

But just because I’m not racing doesn’t mean I’m not doing anything. I switched out my half iron training plan for Ashley Horner’s “Creating a Miracle” and so far I like it a lot. It’s still plenty challenging but also forces me to do more yoga, which I should really be doing anyway.